Isabelle Gebhard Neilson Explained

Birth Name:	Mary Isabelle Gebhard
Birth Date:	29 May 1858
Birth Place:	New York City, New York, U.S.
Death Place:	New York City, New York, U.S.
Parents:	Frederick Charles Gebhard Catherine Davis Gebhard
Relations:	Thomas E. Davis (grandfather) Frederick Gebhard (brother)

Mary Isabelle Gebhard Neilson (May 29, 1857 – May 14, 1928) was an American society leader during the Gilded Age in New York City.

Early life

Isabelle "Belle" was born on May 29, 1857, at the family mansion at 100 Fifth Avenue in New York City. She was one of three children born to Frederick Charles Gebhard (1825–1865) and Catherine "Kate" (née Davis) Gebhard (1829–1870), who had married in 1850. Her father joined the family firm in 1845, by which time they had expanded their mercantile business and developed interests in banking and rail-road stocks. By 1865, her father had died, and by 1870, her mother had died, leaving the children orphaned and to be raised by their uncle.^[1] Her brother, Frederick Gebhard was known for his relationship with Lillie Langtry, a society beauty previously known for her affair with Edward, Prince of Wales. Another brother, Henry Gebhard Jr. died in 1871, aged 10, of scarlet fever.^[2]

Gebhard's paternal grandfather had come from Holland to New York in 1800. He worked as an agent for a Dutch company, eventually starting a business importing gin.^[3] Between 1830 and 1832, he adopted three children (all siblings), whose surnames were changed by legal enactment from Bruce to Gebhard.^[4]

Inheritance

Her maternal grandfather, Thomas E. Davis, was a wealthy New York property developer who made provisions in his will for Isabelle and her brother to receive incomes from his estate until they were 30, at which time the title of the investment would be transferred to them. In 1893, her brother took legal action on behalf of himself and her to enforce this clause. Their grandfather's estate included properties in New York City. They were each entitled to 1/24th part of this estate plus a part of their aunt Nora's share due to her death in 1874.^[5]

Her brother Frederick found himself in reduced circumstances, eventually starting an unsuccessful venture selling fine wines, and needed to borrow money from Isabel. She eventually took court action against him to recover the money (over $65,000).^[6]

Society life

Isabelle and her brother inherited wealth, and the family mansion, from the estates of their parents and their grandfather.^[7] They were well connected in New York society, being related to many of the old and wealthy American families including Vanderbilt, Stuyvesant, Livingston, Remsen, Neilson, Hunter, Delafleld, Lawrence, Wells and Leverich.^[8] Her granduncle was Father John Power, Vicar General of New York; another uncle was John F. A. Sanford, the frontiersman, who via his first marriage had family links to the Pierre Chouteau family of St Louis.

In 1892, the widowed Neilson was included in Ward McAllister's "Four Hundred", purported to be an index of New York's best families, published in The New York Times.^{[9] [10]} Conveniently, 400 was the number of people that could fit into Mrs. Astor's ballroom.^[11] According to her obituary in The New York Times, "Mrs. Neilson was noted for her originality. Many years ago, she was the first woman to wear unmatched earrings. She appeared in Newport with a diamond in one ear, and a pearl in the other, and established a vogue for this type of ornamentation." In Newport, Neilson rented Arleigh, the imposing 1893 Queen Anne mansion on Bellevue Avenue at Parker Avenue,^[12] that was later occupied by Harry Lehr and his wife, Elizabeth Wharton Drexel.^[13]

Personal life

In 1873, Isabelle was married to the "strikingly handsome" Frederick William Hude Neilson (1849–1887).^[14] Frederick was the son of William Hude Neilson and Caroline Kane (née Mills) Neilson.^[15] His first cousin, Edith (née May) Randolph, was the second wife of Secretary of the Navy William Collins Whitney.^[15] Together, they were the parents of:

• Frederick Gebhard Neilson (1875–1875), who died young.^[16]
• Mary Isabelle Neilson (1878–1924), who married Arthur Tryon Kemp (1871–1945)^[17] in 1897.^[18] They divorced and she remarried to Hollis Horatio Hunnewell (1868–1922),^[19] nephew of Frederic Bronson and grandson of H. H. Hunnewell,^[20] in 1903.^[21]
• Jules Blanc Neilson (1879–1945), who married Marguerite Wall (1881–1936), the daughter of Frank Taylor Wall and Annie Clarke (née Meldrum) Wall,^[22] in 1904.^[23]
• Cathleen Gebhard Neilson (1885–1927),^[24] who married Reginald Claypoole Vanderbilt, the youngest son of Cornelius Vanderbilt II and Alice Claypoole Vanderbilt,^[25] in Newport in 1903.^{[26] [27]} After their divorce in 1920,^[28] she married Sidney Jones Colford (1885–1951) in 1921.^[29]

Around 1884, the Neilson's separated and in March 1887, she sued him for divorce in Newport. She claimed he deserted her and their three children, and the divorce was "speedily granted."^[30] He died several months later in July 1887 of Bright's disease while staying at the home of his father in Far Rockaway on Long Island.^{[14] [31]}

Isabelle, who did not remarry, died of cerebral hemorrhage at her apartment in the Plaza Hotel on May 14, 1928, and her funeral was held at St. Patrick's Cathedral and she was buried in the family vault in St Mark's Church in Manhattan.^[32]

Descendants

Through her daughter Mary, she was the grandmother of Mary Isabelle Chiffon Kemp (1900–1965) and Hollis Horatio Hunnewell (1905–1982).^[33]

Through her son Jules, she was the grandmother of Frederic William Gebhard Neilson (1904–1937), a Princeton University graduate who was an executive in the press department of the Bank of New York;^[34] Alexander Meldrum Neilson (1906–1938);^[34] and Isabelle Neilson (1909–1982).

Through her youngest daughter Cathleen, she was the grandmother of Cathleen Vanderbilt (1904–1944), who married Henry Cooke Cushing III in 1923. After their divorce in 1932, she married Lawrence Wise Lowman in 1932.^[35] They divorced that same year and in 1940, she married for the third and final time to Martin Arostegui.^{[36] [37]}

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1. News: Disposing of Two Million. 9 February 2014. The New York Times. 28 June 1878. The uncle was William Henry Gebhard.
2. News: Death. William Henry Gebhard Jr. of scarlet fever, youngest son of late Frederick C. Gebhard, aged 10 years. The New York Times. 17 March 1871.
3. Book: Barrett, William. The Old Merchants of New York City. 1868. Carleton. Broadway. 133.
4. Austin. John. Early Changes of Names in new York. The New York Genealogical and Biographical Record. July 1996. 127. 3. 140. .
5. News: Frederick Gebhard Plaintiff. Page 2. New York Press. 11 February 1893.
6. News: Frederick Gebhard Loses . 5 July 2014. The New York Times. 11 January 1907.
7. News: Gebhard Collection Sold. 29 June 2014. The New York Times. 17 February 1906.
8. News: Society at Home and Abroad – Mary A Schuchardt. 28 June 2014. New York Times. 26 October 1902.
9. News: McAllister. Ward. THE ONLY FOUR HUNDRED WARD M'ALLISTER GIVES OUT THE OFFICIAL LIST. HERE ARE THE NAMES, DON'T YOU KNOW, ON THE AUTHORITY OF THEIR GREAT LEADER, YOU UNDER- STAND, AND THEREFORE GENUINE, YOU SEE.. 5 October 2017. The New York Times. 16 February 1892. en.
10. Book: Patterson. Jerry E.. The First Four Hundred: Mrs. Astor's New York in the Gilded Age. 2000. Random House. 9780847822089. 223. 2 March 2018. en.
11. Book: Keister. Lisa A.. Getting Rich: America's New Rich and How They Got That Way. 2005. Cambridge University Press. 9780521536677. 36. 20 October 2017. en.
12. Web site: 1886-1895 Newport Mansions . www.newportmansions.org . . 21 January 2019 . en.
13. Book: Miller . Paul F. . Lost Newport . 2008 . . 9781557090911 . 53 . 21 January 2019 . en.
14. News: FREDERICK NEILSON'S DEATH. THE FATAL ILLNESS OF THE POPULAR SOCIETY MAN. . 21 January 2019 . . July 29, 1887.
15. Book: Aitken . William Benford . Distinguished Families in America, Descended from Wilhelmus Beekman and Jan Thomasse Van Dyke . 1912 . Knickerbocker Press . 131 . 21 January 2019 . en.
16. Book: Wood . John Walter . William Wood (born 1656) of Earlsferry, Scotland and Some of His Descendants and Their Connections . 1916 . Tuttle, Morehouse & Taylor . 18 . 21 January 2019 . en.
17. News: Grosvenor Ball of Moline Bequeathed $5,000 by Cousin . 21 January 2019 . . 30 Aug 1947 . 5 . en.
18. News: Kemp -- Nelison. . 21 January 2019 . . April 30, 1897.
19. News: HOLLIS HUNNEWELL DIES IN NEW YORK . 21 January 2019 . . January 25, 1922 . 8 . en.
20. News: H.H. Hunnewell, Amateur Sport Enthusiast, Dies Funeral Will Be Held at Cambridge, Mass. Tomorrow . 21 January 2019 . . 25 January 1922 . 11 . en.
21. News: AWAIT DIVORCE TO MARRY. Mrs. Kemp and Hollis H. Hunnewell May Wed in Newport Saturday. . 21 January 2019 . . November 24, 1903.
22. News: FRANK T. WALL MARRIED. Jules Blanc Neilson's Father-in-Law Weds Miss Unckles. . 21 January 2019 . . January 28, 1904.
23. News: JULES BLANC NEILSON GETS HIS BRIDE Secret Marriage with Marguerite Wall Displeases Both Families. SHE WAS KEPT FROM HIM " Reconciliation" with Her Father Effected by Beverley Robinson After Holding Interviews — Off on Honeymoon Trip. . 21 January 2019 . . January 24, 1904.
24. News: MRS. S. J. COLFORD DIES SUDDENLY; Former Wife of Late Reginald C. Vanderbilt Stricken at Hotel in Paris. HUSBAND HURRIEDLY SAILS New York and Newport Society Woman Had Been Called Abroad by Mother's Illness. . 21 January 2019 . . June 4, 1927 . en.
25. News: Mrs. Vanderbilt Sr. Dies In Home At 89. Widow Of Financier, Long Ill. Was A Leader In Brilliant Era Of New York Society . . April 23, 1934. September 21, 2017 .
26. News: A Fashionable Wedding, Exclusive and Grand. Wilkes-Barre Times. April 14, 1903.
27. News: Vanderbilt Dies Aged 44. 15 October 2016. Ogden Standard-Examiner. September 4, 1925.
28. News: MRS. R.C. VANDERBILT, DIVORCEE, IS WED TO S.J. COLFORD JR. She and War Hero Marry in Her Home a Few Hours After Obtaining License. BIG SURPRISE TO SOCIETY Bridegroom, Son of S.J. Colford of Newport, Was Divorced By His Wife Last Month. SERVED IN FRENCH ARMY Bride Is the Daughter of Mrs. Frederic Neilson—Got Her Divorce in Newport Last April. . 21 January 2019 . . January 27, 1921.
29. News: SIDNEY J. COLFORD . 21 January 2019 . . May 26, 1951 . en.
30. News: MRS. FRED NEILSON DIVORCED. HER HUSBAND MAKES NO OPPOSITION TO THE DECREE. . 21 January 2019 . . March 29, 1887.
31. News: FREDERICK NEILSON'S FUNERAL. . 21 January 2019 . . July 31, 1887.
32. News: MRS. MARY NEILSON, SOCIAL LEADER, DIES; Widow of Frederic Neilson and Mother of R.C. Vanderbilt's First Wife Succumbs. SUFFERED STROKE YEAR AGO Was Prominent in Newport and New York--Daughter of Frederick Gebhard, Banker. . 21 January 2019 . . May 15, 1928 . en.
33. News: A SON TO MRS. HUNNEWELL. She Was Mrs. Kemp and Divorced Mr. Kemp in 1903. . 21 January 2019 . . February 3, 1905.
34. Obituary Frederic William Neilson '27 . . 1937 . 50 . 21 January 2019 . en.
35. News: DIVORCE FOR MRS. LOWMAN; Former Cathleen Vanderbilt Gets Decree in Cuban Court. 21 September 2017. The New York Times. 9 June 1940.
36. News: MRS. C.V. LOWMAN MARRIED IN HAVANA; Daughter of the Late Reginald Vanderbilt and First Wife Wed to Martin Arostegui. 21 September 2017. The New York Times. 10 October 1940.
37. News: MRS. M. AROSTEGUI, A VANDERBILT, DIES; Inherited With Mrs. di Cicco Bulk of $7,000,000 Estate of Father, Reginald Vanderbilt. 21 September 2017. The New York Times. 1944.