Heartless Bitches International Explained

Heartless Bitches International
Url:	heartless-bitches.com
Type:	E-zine / community
Registration:	Optional
Owner:	Natalie P.
Author:	Natalie P.
Launch Date:	1996
Current Status:	Offline

Heartless Bitches International was a humorous website primarily targeted at women. It was started as a joke in 1996 by Ottawa, Canada, software developer "Natalie P", satirizing the stereotype that all assertive, strong women are "heartless bitches". It was a repository of thousands of articles, primarily dealing with the expectations and stereotypes that society tries to enforce on men and women, the problems they cause, and how to overcome them.^{[1] [2] [3] [4] [5]}

The website particularly rejects "sappiness" and women considered excessively emotional.^[6] Heartless Bitches International claims it does not celebrate being insensitive, manipulative, selfish, cruel, or man-hating; it celebrates the positive qualities in people, like assertiveness, self-reliance, and an unwillingness to be a martyr, which led to them being stereotyped as "heartless bitches". Apart from admiring these qualities, Heartless Bitches International does not have a party line or rigid set of beliefs, preferring its members to be open-minded and to trust themselves enough to make their own judgments. The website uses "bitch" to mean the backronym "Being In Total Control Honey".^[7]

It was one of the earliest websites catered specifically toward women at a time when the World Wide Web was largely a male domain.^[8] It was nominated for a Webby Award in 2002 in the humor category.^{[9] [10]} In 2001 it had over 6,500 members and about 65,000 page views per week.This website no longer exists.

Content

Regular columns

The majority of HBI's content is user-submitted, but there are a number of semi-regular writers and columns:

• Bitchitorial – An editorial written by Natalie, who also runs the site and gets most of the mail.
• Weak of the Week – JadeSyren, the site's "bitch-bouncer", riffs off the rejected membership applications for the enjoyment of all. The rejected application is presented in full with Jade's commentary in bold.
• I'M NOT BITTER – A personal column by The Morrigan
• Auntie Dote – An advice column

User-submitted

The majority of the articles on Heartless Bitches International are submitted by the readers, and are archived under the heading "Deal With It!"

• Rants – Self-explanatory.
• Collected Quotes – An archive of Heartless Bitches International's "quote of the week". The quotes all somehow relate the Heartless Bitch philosophy. The Quote of the Week is displayed on the site's index page, and changes every update.
• The Manipulator Files – Articles about avoiding and dealing with manipulative relationships, written from personal experience. Also contains a list of "Red Flags" to help identify manipulators before they do too much damage.
• Nice Guys? BLEAH – The biggest 'self saucing' section; It attacks the beliefs of men who think they ("nice guys") deserve female attention because they act "nicely"—not out of the goodness of their hearts or because they care, but because they want something in return—and then spend their time whining about the "fact" that women only want to date jerks. As the site says:^[11]

The section is updated very frequently because of the large amount of mail received from "Nice Guys" who feel they are misunderstood, as well as people who have had to deal with them.

• Sappy Site of the Week – Marlene ("the queen of mean") profiles websites considered laughably sappy, stupid, or both. Similar to Something Awful's "Awful Link of the Day".
• Pukefest – Another long and frequently updated section, Pukefest is where readers chime in with lists of things that make them want to puke. It is received and sorted by Natalie.
• MaleBag – Comments from male readers divided into "Signs of Intelligent Life", "Free Time at the Psychiatric Hospital" and "They JUST DON'T GET IT". There is also general comments from both men and women.
• Unclassified Comments – Reader mail, positive and negative, some with commentary, some without.

Pop culture

Examples of Heartless Bitchiness in popular culture.

• Honorary Heartless Bitches – Examples of women who upheld the Heartless Bitches ideals throughout history, such as over-70s women's rights crusaders The Raging Grannies or the Iceni warrior-queen Boudica.
• Adult books – Books with Heartless Bitch-style themes and characters for adults.
• Children's books – Books for children with strong female role models, a lack of princesses needing rescuing and messages about getting off your ass and doing something instead of waiting for things to somehow work out all right in the end.
• Movies – Movies with Heartless Bitch-style themes and characters.

Other

There is also a shop selling "Heartless Bitch Meanies doll" as well as clothing.^{[12] [13]}

Membership

HBI also has a membership section. Applying for membership requires an essay on why the applicant is a Heartless Bitch. Applications deemed particularly bad are publicly ridiculed in the Weak of the Week section.

• Member Section – Sections for members and prospective members. Despite the majority of the site being from a female perspective, both men and women can become members.
• Real Life Members, Exemplary Members – A list of the members, with an autobiographical paragraph describing them and a personal "one-liner".
• BitchBoard – The website's BBS.

Notes and References

1. News: No Whining on the Web — One tough cookie @ Heartlessbitches.com. Ostrowksi. Julie. June 16, 2002. San Francisco Chronicle. D-2. November 20, 2009.
2. News: The Call of the Bitches — Renegade pundits sound off on the Web. Chonin. Neva. June 15, 2001. SF Gate. San Francisco Chronicle. November 20, 2009.
3. News: Web Site's 'Heartless' Critique Tackles Abusive Relationships. https://web.archive.org/web/20121023191900/http://pqasb.pqarchiver.com/newsday/access/158320301.html?FMT=ABS. dead. October 23, 2012. Ostrowski. Julie. September 3, 2002. Newsday, Queens Edition. A.24. November 20, 2009.
4. News: These women are heartless. Tam. Pauline. March 24, 2001. Montreal Gazette. November 20, 2009. https://web.archive.org/web/20010618144731/http://www.montrealgazette.com/technology/pages/010324/5058914.html. 2001-06-18.
5. News: Heartless Bitchess International. Speigel. Ian. September 12, 2000. McGill Tribune Volume 20 Issue 2 (student newspaper). November 20, 2009.
6. News: Who loves the sun?. Amihod. Mitchell. February 11, 1999. Montreal Mirror. November 20, 2009. dead. https://web.archive.org/web/20081201180438/http://www.montrealmirror.com/ARCHIVES/1999/021199/worthy.html. December 1, 2008.
7. News: Who are you calling a bitch?. Figes. Kate. January 26, 2007. The Guardian. November 20, 2009.
8. Book: Blair. Kristine. Takayoshi. Pamela. Feminist cyberscapes: mapping gendered academic spaces. Greenwood Publishing Group. 1999. 379. 1-56750-438-8. 2009-11-20.
9. Web site: 6th Annual Webby Awards Nominees & Winners. 2002. Webby Awards website. November 20, 2009. dead. https://web.archive.org/web/20091029212542/http://www.webbyawards.com/webbys/current.php?season=6. October 29, 2009.
10. News: War and peace challenge for web awards. Campbell. Duncan. April 30, 2002. guardian.co.uk. November 20, 2009.
11. Web site: Heartless Bitches International - "Nice Guys = BLEAH!". 2009-11-21. 2005-08-07. https://web.archive.org/web/20050807233257/http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml. dead.
12. Web site: Heartless Bitches International - Stuff from the Store.
13. News: A Stuffed, Heartless Bitch. Mara. Janis. Gruenwedel. Eric. 2001. Adweek. November 20, 2009. https://web.archive.org/web/20020603151327/http://www.yil.com/issues/guide.asp?volume=08&issue=06. 2002-06-03.